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Uncoven Issue #32

Hex Rated Episode 31 and 32 Out Now!!!

Be sure to check out episode 31, all about the witches’ latest Ritual of Vengeance and Justice Revisited, and episode 32, where Blackbird goes deep with Scarlet and fellow witch friend Brandon on the topic of channeling.  You can listen to us wherever you listen to your other favorite podcasts!

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As mentioned, here are those sweet tattoo pics!


Brandon’s iynx/familiar spirit frog and Blackbird’s epic Hecate backpiece.


Elbow Deep with Blackbird

I knew a long time ago that if I were going to do a backpiece, it would be a Hecate backpiece.  I had no idea how I wanted it to look.  As I mentioned on our latest episode, I found an artist who I thought would do something rad of her own accord, without a lot of design input from me – just elements.  So, on a weekend last August while I was steeped in the mythos of death, I told Mary Joy Scott how Hecate appears to me.  She listened and, as someone who is also familiar with my protectress, created a vision that we both could see.
I’ve spoken before about how not every tattoo on me (and I’ve lost count now how many) has some sort of deep meaning.  Sometimes I get tattoos because I like the design.  Sometimes I get something because it’s fun or silly.  Sometimes, however, they ARE meaningful.  I don’t have to explain why this one is perhaps the “one” tattoo that will end up defining everything I am.
I am not usually a person who is in a great deal of pain during the process of being tattooed, but after hour 4 and a half, even I knew I was really just a fucking mortal.  All this talk of sitting like a rock – which I can, and do – but after 4 or 5 hours, your body does stuff that you can’t control anymore.  What better metaphor could possibly tell the tale of my path with Hecate?
When I see her face, it is lava breaking through the dark earth.  When I hear her voice, it’s like a sweet but dirty gravel.  She doesn’t smile.  But she does command.  What she asks of most, however, is that I let go.  Just let the fuck go of whatever I think I can control.  I may be at the center of my own magic, but the only way I truly ever get there is to deeply, intrinsically understand that I am just plucking out swaths of ether.  That I am part of a wave, and while manipulation is one thing, true control is another.  I don’t control.  I just am.
At hour 6, I was waiting in great anticipation for the machine to go silent.  At 6 and a half, it did.  I said, holy shit, she really has my back now, in the most literal of senses.  Mary said, go make offerings.Hecate said:  Your blood is enough today.

Blessings –

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Take Care, Mother Witch

Let’s be real, witchy mammas and pappas and caregivers, no one gets it. No one understands what you’re going through except someone who has been in the trenches themselves. I’m talking war-born camaraderie, the type of understanding that comes from equally powerful bouts of newborn induced sleep deprivation, I’m talking about how your brain has changed and your body has changed and everyone around you is going on like it’s business as usual but how can they possibly be doing that because nothing will ever be business as usual again because now you have one (or more!) tiny human that relies on you for everything.

And it’s glorious.

And terrifying.

And beautiful.

And terrifying.

No one understands how the most joyous time in your life is juxtaposed next to what could also be the scariest. Your heart has been taken from your body and placed into someone else and you are watching that little person carrying your heart walk around and interact with a world that you suddenly, painfully, realize is imperfect. The world is going to hurt them.

You have to stop it! You have to change the world or keep them away from it! Your child is amazing and beautiful and how dare the world think it can harm your child. But it will. And oh gods, what if you’re the one to do it? Your parents, even the most loving, didn’t always do the right thing, they hurt you, didn’t they? So inevitably you will hurt your child.

So then everything you have ignored or didn’t need to examine, all the ugly feelings you could just stamp down because it wasn’t relevant or whatever- they come back. Because motherhood, parenthood, pulls all of that to the surface.

Suddenly I am acutely aware that my daughters are hearing and internalizing how I talk about my body.

How my husband and I communicate.

How I express myself.

The way we behave as a family.

The manner in which I interact with the world in its entirety.

And oh my gods, how am I supposed to get this all right?

I won’t. I won’t get it all right.

It’s overwhelming.

This was supposed to be about self-care, so let’s circle back around.
No one understands what you’re going through except those of us who have also been in the trenches and let me tell you I am still there. So I get it.

For the last two years my entire focus has been on my children and for the last few months that neglect has caught up with me. My body has suddenly demanded the attention I have been withholding. So, from one warrior to another, take care of yourself.

It’s hard.

Lily’s Daily Acts of Self-Care and Self-Love

Morning Tea

I gave up coffee over the last few months after some deep reflection regarding if it was really good for me or if it was causing more problems and have recently switched to green tea. When I take my first sip of tea I drink slowly, I imagine the warmth of the tea is flowing through my whole body. I imagine the tea is an offering I’m making myself, the same way I would leave an offering for the spirits.

Calming Hands

When I feel myself growing anxious or becoming overwhelmed, I place one hand over my chest and one on my stomach. I breathe in deeply and then I exhale for just a little longer than I inhaled. I thank my body for taking care of me, for protecting me, because anxiety is a survival instinct, but I reassure myself that there is no danger, that I’m safe.

Make Art

I call them doodles because not much is expected of a doodle and that’s very freeing. I grab napkins or little strips of scrap paper and I just draw. I don’t think, oh this needs to be something special or important, instead I try to reframe the experience as the act of doing this is important or, conversely, I think, this is just a doodle and it doesn’t matter at all.

Take care, witchy mommas.


Shadow Weaver: Benevolent Narcissism

I jokingly refer to myself as possessing “benevolent narcissism.”  I try to use my powers for good and so can you!

These are some practices that have helped me to be more open about experiencing feelings of empathy, but they are great foundations for all sort of other witchy work.

Extending you awareness to objects, plants and animals

Fostering empathy with other humans can be ooky, so a stepping stone is testing out clairvoyance (-audience, -sentience, etc) with your crystals, magical tools, spice rack, or random shit on the ground while you wait for your train.

Try to see what impressions come to you: it may be a color, flavor, a temperature, or a kinesthetic sensation like floating up or sinking down.

Healing and energy medicine

I got Reiki attuned on a whim when it was offered for free at a workshop.  Full disclosure, I don‘t really think a person needs anyone else to impart healing powers or unlock one‘s energetic potential.  That being said, the lark of being told, “shazam, now you can reiki people!” (my paraphrasing, of course) and being put on the spot to try it out with partners was a fantastic ” ok, what the hell” push to try something I always told myself was not in my nature and did not come naturally to me.  It turns out that rather than feeling nothing or being squicked out, I enjoy healing and it seems to be pretty effective. Win win!

Nondual Meditation

The schools of tantra I study (including Kaula and Kashmiri Saivism) are academically categorized as “nondual.”  In more plain terms, this means that they believe that you and the divine are not two separate things, but actually one thing (nondual = not two).  Everything in the multiverse is the divine including you, your pets, nature, dirt, even that annoying guy at work who clicks his jaw. The illusion of egoistic consciousness is a game Shiva-Shakti plays to observe itself from different perspectives.

Anyway, the feeling of non-duality is obviously a pretty heavy antidote to a self-centered outlook.   I like a breathing technique that is simple to do, but will probably be very difficult to explain. First, one focuses on the breath inhaling IN cosmic radiance, absorbing it, then exhaling cleansed breath back OUT.  After some time, the flow will reverse: breathing OUT releases a flow of universal divinity and breathing IN ingests your mundane metabolizing of that energy. The shift in perspective is one of going from experiencing reality as one normally would– as one‘s own microcosm– to experiencing it as the macrocosm.  Like I said, not a thing that is easy to describe with any lucidity. I recommend Sally Kempton‘s work for meditation guidance.


 New Year’s Tarot Spread: the Fool’s JourneyFull Image

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An on-going list of political and social action items to keep you aware in these rage-inducing times. 

-These 28 Women Broke Major Barriers to Become ‘Firsts’ in 2019.

-36 Powerful Images Of Women Protesters Leading From The Front Across The World

-Awesome! Illinois removes statute of limitations on reporting sexual assaults

-The Power and Legacy of America’s Female Spiritualists.

-First hospital in the UK to introduce disposable sterile hijabs/headscarves for staff to use in operating rooms.

Still useful stuff:

100 Ways to Support—Not Appropriate From—Native People

-Help voters register before the 2020 primaries by donating to Spread the Vote’s Project ID initiative.

-The #HomeIsHere campaign provides resources for individuals receiving DACA protections.

 Resources for teachers, education volunteers, and students on empowering students to vote.  Curriculae, planning a registration drive (4-week action plan), start a club (sample club constitution), and more!

Four Ways to Destigmatize Abortion in Everyday Conversations

-What You Can Do to Help Women in States With Extreme Abortion Bans via the Cut.

-Use the Americans of Conscience worksheets to make and Action Plan and Self Care plan for 2019.

-Complete Guide to 2019 Artist Grants & Opportunities

– Check out Jen Hoffman’s new year activism challenge with her activism plan worksheet and a bonus self care worksheet.   Sign up for her weekly newsletter which is so ridiculously more thorough than ours!

– Join the Handmaid’s Resistance!  Get updates about events, resources, organizing your own event and more.

– fire up that cellular device and oppose the rollback of birth control coveragedefend childhood immigrants and DREAMersdenounce Trump’s ban on transgender troops, tell DeVos to maintain title IX protections for campus assault victims.  Or pick any other five issues from 5 Calls, there are 31 active issues!  Bonus points: follow up with emails and faxes through an app (see below) or good ole snail mail.

– Try the Stance app. Record a voice message and will send it directly to your representative’s phone.

– Head to the House of Representatives website to find your rep in congress and contact them! Emails are great, phone calls are better, but do something. Contact them until the poor, unpaid interns who have to answer the phones all day know you by name. Contact them until everyone cries because you will not stop until your rep knows exactly where you stand on all the issues.

– Follow your congress(wo)man on Twitter or periodically check-in (if clouding your social media feed with their trash is too repulsive), representatives will often tweet about upcoming town halls. Attend town halls.

– If you are in a time crunch and want to contact your senators or representatives but can’t get to a town hall, check out this genius texting bot called Resistbot.  You will have to come up with a short message, but the bot will fax your legislators DAILY if you so desire.  Resistbot is now available on Facebook Messenger, with even more features than ever.  If you are not using this, it is simply the fastest, best way to contact your state and federal representatives.

– The Women’s March is a goldmine of resources and suggested actions to combat the growing voice of racism, bigotry, and sexism. Follow them on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram as well!

– Check out The American Civil Liberties Union’s (ACLU) handy-dandy doc Know Your Rights for when you’re out there on the street peacefully protesting and expressing your motherfuckin’ right to civil disobedience. In fact, while you’re at it, donate some cash monies if you can. Here in ‘Merica we vote with our dollars.

– **NEW!!** Indivisible has released a brand new version of the Indivisible Guide.  New congress, new rules of engagement.  Check it out!!

-If you are a Texas resident, you can go to the Texas Legislature Online and sign-up for an account, allowing you to view legislative content and add bills to an alert list. Whenever a bill you’ve put on your list is updated, you’ll receive an alert. Also, feel free to check out our list of Texas legislative bills that we are monitoring and updating. Stay woke, witches.

-Check out Planned Parenthood Texas Vote‘s guide on attending legislative committee hearings where the public is given the opportunity to provide input and feedback on proposed laws.

– Don’t over extend yourself! Yes, we’d all like to fix all the problems right the fuck now, but that’s not practical. You will burn yourself out if you try to keep up with everything in this country (and world for that matter) that needs fixing, so we recommend you come up with a short list of the most important social issues to you. This does not mean you don’t care about everything! We know you do! But we can’t all be doing everything all the time.

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